Registry Restrictions VS Parental Rights

The opinions expressed within posts and comments are solely those of each author, and are not necessarily those of Women Against Registry.

Recently I wrote a piece on Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin’s denying and then limiting a father who also happens to be a registrant, access to visit his ill child in the hospital. A father who was doing right by his child, being responsible, being there to comfort his ailing son.

This week I read another article about Cardinal Glennon Children’s Hospital/South St. Louis who is denying a father who also happens to be a registrant, (his offense was in 2004) further visitation with his premature son in NICU. The hospital apparently has a “by hospital escort only” visiting policy for registrants and while the father was fine with that, he needed to go outside to make a phone call and was advised by hospital staff to “just go, you don’t need an escort for that”. Due to staff’s apparent lack of understanding on exactly how this “by hospital escort only” policy is supposed to be applied to registrants, the father went outside but upon his return inside the hospital, security checked the father’s ID, determined  “Ahah, here is a registrant “sans” escort”, and his visitation rights were promptly terminated.

Now there’s a father in Raleigh, N. Carolina who has been arrested for “being seen near the Raleigh elementary school that his child attends and also on the grounds of a day care center”. Darious Alphonso Douglas was charged with 2 felony counts of being a registered sex offender on “children’s premises” whatever that is, I wasn’t aware children had “premises”. He was carted off to jail and held under $30,000 bail. According to the warrant, the offenses occurred during the period of Oct. 26, 2017 and March 21, 2018.

The original news article is sketchy and a little disjointed if you ask me. It’s hard to understand “exactly” what the facts are and what the crime is.

Yes, Mr. Douglas was on school grounds. Yes, this is currently, in most places, a registry violation for a registrant.

But if you’re a parent and don’t take your child to school or pick up them up, isn’t that the bigger crime?

According to the school’s principal, Mr. Douglas had enrolled his child in Washington Elementary School.  He had also signed his child up for the before-school program. And, Mr. Douglas had picked his child up from carpool. All things that responsible parents do. Just like visiting your ill child in the hospital.

“Mr. Douglas had never checked in at the front-office and there was no indication that he ever went any further than the cafeteria entryway when dropping off his child” said Principal Grant. Was this a good thing or a bad thing? Is the school’s policy that everyone check in at the front-office or just registrants?  Is there some policy that Mr. Douglas wasn’t aware of when it comes to him being able to drop-off and pick-up his child from school. It’s hard to tell from the article.

But then I also wonder why Principal Grant felt the need to send a recorded message to the families of the entire school body regarding the incident, and what did that message say?   “Beware, a sex offender has been in our midst?”, “Stranger-Danger?” “Sex Offender On Premises?”. Did he name names?  What kind of hysteria driven message did he feel the need to tell all of the school children’s parents?

Did it ever occur to him that he was setting Mr. Douglas’ child up for a whole lot of bullying by announcing this child’s father’s registry status to the entire school?

Nothing had happened that I can tell from the article except Mr. Douglas had been picking-up his child from school for several months when maybe he shouldn’t have. But then, how are registrants supposed to get their children to and from school?  Are they supposed to drop them off a 1,000 ft, 2,500 ft away from the school and tell them to walk the rest of the way by themselves?  Don’t registrant’s children have the right to be dropped off and picked-up at the school front door just like anyone else’s children? Don’t they have the same right to that “children’s safety” that the registry has everyone so worried about?

Mr. Douglas’ crime was in 2008, a conviction of second-degree kidnapping of a minor and sexual battery. He was sentenced to 4 months in prison and 36 months probation. He did his time.

That was 10 years ago.

N. Carolina state law forbids registered sex offenders from being any place that is intended primarily for the use, care and supervision of minors, including schools, children’s museums, childcare centers and playgrounds.

Children are born into this world, which if you use the registry’s own logic, could be considered a place intended primarily for the use, care and supervision of minors. The entire world.  Children are everywhere.

If you follow “registry logic”, registrants would be restricted from existing. Period. Maybe that’s what they want, but it’s not gonna happen.  Not on our watch.

With all the school shootings going on in the world today, I would worry more about parents or students with guns showing up at a school or hospital more than I’d worry about a parent with a 10 year old sex offense conviction. The sex offender, they’ve already done time for their crime, they don’t want to go back to prison. They’re just trying to be good parents, taking their child to and from school, visiting their sick children in hospitals.

Where are the school and hospital policies for parents with drug and DUI convictions ? How about parents with murder or theft convictions? Where are the policies for them being on “children’s premises”?  Why is it just sex offenses that require “special policies”?

From what I’ve read, some schools allow registrants on campus if they check in at the office, if they call first, if there’s some kind of plan already in place.  I don’t know  all the circumstances in this case, like I said, the information is a bit sketchy.  If rules dictated that Mr. Douglas should have had a plan in place, well, maybe he should have.  If it’s a school where under no circumstances could he be on campus, then how is his child supposed to get to and from school. (The registry in their infinite wisdom didn’t consider these hiccups, now did they?) Just the fact that he enrolled his child in a before-school program makes me want to believe that Mr. Douglas had a job he needed to get to every morning, like any responsible parent.

Maybe he’s supposed to hire a chauffeur to bring his children to school. You know, because registrants can all find such well-paying jobs that they could afford such a thing!

What those writers of Registry Rules don’t want anyone to know is that many registrants are excellent parents, they were before their offense and are afterwards. 

They should be allowed the right to be loving, caring, responsible parents without registry restrictions and without having to jump through hoops for ridiculous school and hospital policies that do nothing more than give a false sense of security to society.

 

The opinions expressed within posts and comments are solely those of each author, and are not necessarily those of Women Against Registry.

8 comments for “Registry Restrictions VS Parental Rights

  1. R in MIZZOU-ra
    May 18, 2018 at 10:01 am

    I have 3 children, well I used to have 3 children. My wife left me because my oldest son felt like I abandoned him when he started playing school sports and blames me for every one of his failures. See my oldest son was awarded the presidential award for academics when he left grade school and then poof, no more dad to watch over and guide him. Teenagers push boundaries, so when he pushed, I wasn’t allowed to correct him or talk to his teachers to help coordinate his schooling. I used to be his super hero and now I’m just that guy on the registry.

    I went through years where I didn’t have to register due to expo facto ruling by the MO Supreme Court, so I was allowed to go to all school functions and I was allowed to be a parent and human being. Then Sorna went into effect and then all of a sudden when the Federal Government was going to take away funding that it was no longer Expo Facto, AMAZING…Back in the dumpster…

    I’ve always supported my kids, my boys play football and I was the loudest parent in the bunch. I went to every practice and I never missed a game. We have 2 city officers and 2 county officers as parents and they told me that they would never arrest me for being there for my kids, also if you couldn’t hear me, then you knew I wasn’t there.

    My boys also have dabbled in baseball. For years I have gone to their practices and games and now this year I’ve been told that I cannot take (yes take, not stay) to practices or games. Apparently, the police officer that works at the school, well his son finally stopped taking ballet and took away the et. Granted, I had only dropped off and picked up my son for practices and talked to some of the other parents that I knew from football.

    Well, this good samaritan officer must have felt threatened by the photo of me that they have hanging in the lounge areas at the school (yes they do). He felt it necessary to lie and say that I was out on the field among all of the kids playing with them. So the Sheriff had my SOO send me a letter banning me from taking my kids to the park or going to any games since there is playground equipment somewhere (1/2 mile from practice fields and 2000 feet from the game field).

    Now I’m not allowed to go to schools parent-teacher conferences, sporting events, awards ceremonies (and my kids get a lot of awards), etc. My kids have an average IQ of 130+ and are some of the most social kids in the schools. I get compliments from complete strangers in stores, teachers, etc. I’m proud of my kids and I do not want what happened to my oldest to avalanche into my 2 other kids. My youngest son is just plain mad, now we don’t even get baseball as that has been taken away also.

    I feel that I’m a very respected parent and person in the community for the people and parents that know me. For my oldest son, my wife told me not to make any waves and just sit at home. Well, she never did sports or academics, so they have been just lost. She’s even sent her employees to their parent-teacher conferences, but thats another story.

    I’m tired of sitting on my thumbs and waiting for my children to grow up so I can become a part of their lives again. I’ve tried to raise my children to be amazing people, only to lose one to this perverted system of a supposed norm to be protected from me and my kind. Who are they to judge and give penance to me and my children? Are they going to raise them until they get home, while I set confined in it?

    I want to take the fight to them, I want to knock on their door to ask them how I could raise my children any better. The schools say they want parents to interact and be a part of their children’s education and then they look at the bulletin board and say, all parents but you. We allow murderers, drug dealers, and thieves, but they’ve paid their debt to society, but mine will never be paid.

    I’ve been trying to reach out to some lawyers to see if anyone would take up this fight, not for me, but for my children. Even though being on the registry falls under Expo Facto and is illegal. I do not want my 2 youngest to have the same contempt for me that my oldest does. Creating anger for a system that has robbed them of their Dad only to blame the only person that has truly been there for them their entire lives. They are Bastarised by the system.

    I’ve been on the registry on and off for almost 20 years and was convicted in 1992. I initially didn’t mind the registry, but now it’s affecting my ability to get work, so I can take care of my family and pay my bills. I hate the fact that I’m having to declare bankruptcy, so now the public is going to have to pay my bills.

    I worked my way from a shipping clerk to the Credit Manager of a Iconic worldwide business and then poof, one of my co-workers felt I was going to take her job so she told some of my VP’s who I “really” was. Of course, they couldn’t have one of their department heads with a record like mine so they released me with a nice little severance.

    So now I’m bouncing from one job to another, that is until they pull up my record. I’m a beast at interviews and truthfully I’ve never failed at whatever I do in business. I’ve now been unemployed since January, granted I have had several interviews and nailed them, but then the background check comes back and poof. No emails or calls, so I could at least sell me beyond what they read on the registry.

    I have many more horror stories, but this isn’t about me, it’s about the innocence of my children that society is so hell-bent on destroying. My children are great at public speaking and I’ve taught them to be kind, modest and honest. I had an argument with the superintendent about going to my son’s award ceremony and that day we were red-lined to DFS by my daughter’s counselor. Supposedly Magically out of the blue she pulled my daughter into her office to talk.

    After 45 minutes of interrogating my 7-year-old daughter, she finally got her to admit it scares her when I argue with my teenage son. Then once the 2 ladies from DFS arrived we all had a very open discussion with my family and a residence check, we got a glowing review from DFS telling us how open our children were speaking with them and that they want nor need for anything. Heck, my teenage son even admitted that he breaks rules on purpose to start arguments because he knew that I couldn’t discipline him and he was the one that takes them too far, just to see how far he could push me.

    So can someone please HELP ME save my FAMILY or at least what is left of it…Thank You

  2. Jonathan
    April 22, 2018 at 7:49 pm

    You should do a piece on our situation. The state and CPS took our daughter when she was 5 months old. They ended up terminating our parental rights, Me because I am a sec offender, and my wife because she would not divorce me. We were never charged or accused of a crime against our daughter. Our daughter is now 4 and was adopted by the foster who helped with her own lies in court. My conviction was in 2008, that’s 10 years ago. My wife and I work hard and are successful, we dont do drugs and just bought a house. They based the entire case off of the fact that I am a sex offender, so our daughter was in imminent danger. Essentially saying that I can’t have a family because I have to register. I would love to fight this in federal court, but I can’t find anyone who can take the case. They are either too busy or not interested. Any ideas?

    • Kat
      May 3, 2018 at 8:43 am

      Jonathan-
      Try your local legal aide, maybe they can help you find someone willing to look at your case.

  3. Joe123
    April 20, 2018 at 8:53 pm

    This is a great write-up, but it is only being read by people that are already ‘in-the-know’. These articles need to be forwarded to the misguided morons that keep agreeing with laws like these; the politicians.

    • April 20, 2018 at 8:56 pm

      Feel Free to forward it to any and all that you think should see it. That is advocacy.

      Take Care,
      Vicki

    • Tim Moore
      April 21, 2018 at 12:52 am

      The choir needs the music, also. If we are already educated, we still need the inspiration. Thanks for the inspiration.

      • April 21, 2018 at 7:47 am

        You should attend our conference in August. Next year we hope to have a large crowd at our conference in D.C..That is the culmination of a three year strategy.

  4. Nevin Walter
    April 19, 2018 at 6:40 pm

    Exactly. My friend was barred from her daughter’s day-care because of being on list.

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